Steve Jobs

Your life…whose is it really?

Steve-Jobs-Quotes-on-Life

May I crave your indulgence a moment…

Take a few minutes to think about your life; who you are, what you do, where you’ve been, where you’re at now…

Can you sincerely say to yourself, “This is my life, and I am here now…its not there yet but it is ‘my’ life… one day at a time, and I am thankful…”

But if you can’t quite recognize who you are or where you are at…

Then perhaps the real question you should be asking yourself is… “Is this my life?” or “Where is my life?” “Which way did it go?” “Whose script have I been playing?” “Whose stage has this been all along?”

It is thin line between conformity and reality… you could be living out someone else’s script and have misunderstood it to be your reality.

It doesn’t have to be that way…

That is my revelation to you tonight >>

To tell you that, really!, seriously!, it doesn’t have to be that way…

 

DARE TO BE DIFFERENT

“That is the one unforgivable sin in any society. Be different and be damned!” ― Margaret Mitchell

There is a huge difference between being different and being a complete nuisance or a mine field. In my opinion, deciding to be different isn’t synonymous to insanity or to being a miscreant in society. Rather it is a call to a higher responsibility, a call to be unique, a call to stay true to what makes you special; that dream and that idea so rare that would make a difference.

The temptation usually is to follow the crowd, or to please the crowd, and to choose to be something familiar rather than be relevant. Do not suppress the urge to modify, alter, refashion or revamp the big idea. Change is the only constant thing. We evolve daily in our thinking and so does the world, progressing and metamorphosing along its course.

The danger here is to remain stagnant, resistant, and impervious to this apparent ongoing transformation for fear of general opinion. In order to have great impact, or make a huge difference, one must be willing to stand aloof from criticism and general back-lashing.

With great vision comes great risk and any dream that has ever stood the test of time is the one that wasn’t afraid of its eccentricity. Neither did it mind being the odd one out at any one point in time. As school dropouts, Steve Jobs and Bill gates weren’t exactly the norm of the day, they were the weird ones. They were different but look what that difference has birthed!

How about ‘The lady with the lamp’, Florence Nightingale, daring to care for soldiers during the Crimean war? And who in the process founded modern nursing. She dared to be different in spite of opposition she suffered from her family and the restrictive social code for affluent young English women.

She even rejected married, something a young girl in her time wouldn’t dare because in those days, women of Nightingale’s class did not attend universities and did not pursue professional careers; their purpose in life was to marry and bear children. She however was convinced that marriage would interfere with her ability to follow her calling to nursing. Her sacrifice paid off in the end but I doubt the process was a pleasant one to endure.

Learn to trust your instincts and the solutions you are creating for your generation. Have foresight, see beyond the supposed damnation that says your dream is impractical or unfeasible. Believe in what you can see within, give it time too and at the right moment, it will become exactly what it was meant to be — a miracle.

“Do not free a camel of the burden of his hump; you may be freeing him from being a camel.” ― G.K. Chesterton

Florence Nightingale

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LOOK AWAY TO STAY FOCUSED

STAY HUNGRY. STAY FOOLISH – Steve Jobs


I made a major shift recently in my life that probably confused a handful of people and a few of my friends. I realized that I was constantly stressed, repeatedly drained and overly busy doing a lot of stuff in pursuit of my goals. I was stretched in so many directions trying to build my PR business, grow my clientele, and pursue my passion as a writer at the same time.

My emotions were stretched thin and so was my perseverance, especially because living a city like Lagos, (the busiest, craziest and the most insanely bustling city in Nigeria) you are forced to contend with many oppositions; its dynamic and infuriated demography, the mad rush and the endemic competitive residents. It can be crazy. It is crazy. And commuting within the city was one of my most dreaded ventures. It was hostile and it sucked out the very life out of you.

I knew I needed to take a break, a breather, something, anything to transfuse the life back into me. So I made major decisions, I dropped everything as in everything. And disappeared. LOL. Yeah, that was what I did. I had to find my Mojo, get back my zip and my tang. I had to revive those dead cells, regenerate the very tissues that gave me my uniqueness, so I did what only me was known to do at the very odd times and the very unexpected moments. I shifted.

My friends thought, “Oh dear, here she goes again.” My new acquaintances thought, “What the hell is wrong with her, is she okay?” My family members, didn’t understand it but supported me all the same. They give me that look that says, “hey babe, we don’t know what the hell you’re about right now but we can tell its going to be gorgeous.”

Before I dropped everything and disappeared, everything weirdly, seemed to be working out. I’d just closed two fabulous deals that seemed like the bomb. They were the bomb. And the clients were nothing short of extraordinary, breathtaking and awesome. They were the kind of people you wanted to spend your lunch time with everyday and in every way. Two stunning and spectacular female entrepreneurs who called the shots in their fields.

Still I dropped it all and disappeared. Why? Something wasn’t right. Something wasn’t in place. Everything wasn’t in place even though everything seemed to workout. I wasn’t in place. I was out of focus. And if you’re into filmmaking, you’ll know that isn’t right. I’m the movie star here. I’m the protagonist. I’m the life of the party. Why should I be out of focus, be the blur? I was off balance. I was tilting to the edge, about to fall off.

That certainly wasn’t right. So in order to get it all back together, to stand still, erect and solid, I had to take my eyes off the chaos in spite of the spotted fabulosity. I had to look away to set my eyes on what was most important and most crucial — me. I had to get back to center. Take my eyes off the exterior and place it on the interior.

Oh, and its been amazing. My muscles are healing, stretching and growing. And this blog happens to be the first fruits of that transformation. I have found my voice and I am building my tribe. It is so easy and insanely fulfilling, I can hardly contain myself. I mean I am so in touch with my inner self, and alive like never before, I am awed by my own growth.

My coach always told me that the inner growth was the most crucial and the most important. Everything else springs from your inner growth. She gave an illustration with workouts; when you workout, you are advised to do it every other day because the space in between is when your muscles heal and grow. Growth happens in silence and quite. You only have to believe, and find the courage to take your eyes off whats weighing you to find what will reenergize you.

It’s never easy to leave the familiar and chase after the unknown. It is perhaps the scariest thing you will ever do. Yet it promises to be good — in the long run. That is where staying focused comes in. Once you find your center, stay on it. Once you find what you love, stay with it. Once you find your silence, never comprise it. Once you take your eyes off the distracting exterior, keep your eyes on your internal core. Let everything else flow from your epicenter.

Stay on that goal, water that seed, and keep watering it, never mind that the shoots take forever to sprout. The seed itself needs to draw from the earth, its nutrients, the sunlight, and the water you give it and these take a significant amount of time. Your seed needs sometime to announce its potential to the universe in order to draw just what it needs for its development, and trust me that doesn’t happen in one day, or one month. It could take years. (More about the seed soon)

So, like my role model, Steve Jobs said, stay foolish — disappear if you have to but find your Mojo, stay hungry — keep chasing after the unknown. You can hardly go wrong. You cannot connect the dots now, I hardly can myself. Still, I’m certain that in a few years from now, I would be most grateful to God, that I made that shift when I did. Stay foolish — you will be misunderstood sometimes, but stay focused. Welcome to August!

Desert girl

 

You got to find what you LOVE!

As we come to the close of another month, I’ll like to share this piece with you. It inspires me anytime I read it and every word of it is so, so true. Many people inspire me, many things stir me to want to be better than I currently am. Like ordinary people doing extra ordinary things, like my awesome family members and their big hearts, like great books written by beautiful people, great movies with moving stories, like the author of this piece you are about to read.


“If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.”

You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.  Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

STAY HUNGRY. STAY FOOLISH.

Selected text from the transcribed speech by Steve Jobs,
Stanford Report, June 14, 2005


I hope you’ve had an amazing July just like I’ve had.  I hope you’ve been inspired by my random musings. I hope you have learned something new. I hope you have been convinced, even if it’s just a little bit, that you are bigger inside than you could ever imagine. If you believe so, then why not, my July has certainly been awesome. Write down your goals for August, take a step of faith and reach for the stars! Be simply awesome!! XOXO

Reach for the stars