positive expectations

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right

Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are right – Henry Ford

There is really no over emphasizing the fact that you are what you think about. If you are the kind that keeps saying to herself, ‘”people like us are not as lucky… ” or  “I know myself, if I try it, it won’t work… ” Oh, it wont work all right. Take a look at your life, and if you are sincere with yourself, you will see that everything you see is exactly as you have expected it to be.  Are you familiar with the phrase, “Didn’t I say so?” or ” what did I say before we got here?” or “I told you we would be asked to leave… ” And truly, you were spotted and bounced at the party like search dogs would sniff out cocaine.

Perhaps that  would serve as a perfect illustration for how our thoughts play out and how our outcomes sniff us out and take hold of us, just like the search dog. When you think you can’t, automatically, every difficulty known to man haunts you down and overwhelms you till you quit. When you think you can, no obstacle is big enough to stop you and each time, opportunity will sniff you out to help you to the next leave. So whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you attract the equivalent.

Its like throwing a soccer ball into the air and expecting a basket ball to drop back into your hands. Nope, that’s not the way it works, you get back what you put in and with cascading effects. The power of thought is so potent that a simple thought can have enormous impact on your life. A thought as simple as “I’m a failure” said with deep emotions of regret and heavy with disappointment, can attract to you a series of life events that shake you so hard, you are at the brink of losing your mind.

On the other hand, a thought as simple as “I’m the best” emotionalized during a very high season of your life will attract to you tons of happy outcomes, happening in sequence as though a door of fortune was opened unto you. Our emotions bear enormous power, they charge our thoughts with the equivalent energy it needs to produce results. They are like the honey to bees, like fireflies to light. Be careful what you think you are, especially at times when you are lowest in spirit. Don’t call to yourself anything you won’t be pleased to live with. Like dumb, stupid, failure, loser.

It is not our feelings that create our thoughts, its our thoughts that create our feelings. If you fell and hit your knee hard against a rough surface and it bled, during the scramble to get your car keys, and be on your way to pick up a check of a hundred thousand (choose your currency), would you suddenly slump and begin to cry “boohoo, I hurt my knee, Look its bleeding. Please don’t speak to me about any stupid check, I’m in a low state right now, my feelings are hurt… ” Of course not, you will spring back  to your feet and race for that check, cash it and bank it, and chances are you would have gone through the entire day before you realized that you hurt your knee when you fell.

Why didn’t you get sad and depressed when you fell? It’s because your thoughts were happy and jubilant thoughts, you’d just won a jack pot. Now imagine the opposite, imagine you get a mail, that you were being queried and that your job was on the line, and that you were needed at an executive meeting to explain yourself, and out of anxiety you race for your keys, and in the process you miss a step and tumble down the stairs and hurt your ankle. What will be your reaction? Easy isn’t it, you will feel a lot of pain, you will swear and curse and of course cry and you will anticipate the worse of the current situation.

You will probably miss the said meeting especially if your car decides not to start and by the time you arrive, limping and looking miserable, it would be too late, the meeting would be over and your boss tells you how your attitude to issues is appalling and that the board has agreed to let you go.

Now these are two very peculiar situations likable to happen to anyone. And you are probably saying to yourself, well, shit happens and either of the two couldn’t have thought otherwise. Maybe yes, maybe not. Let’s look at the second scenario again, say, you hear the news and before reacting, like running to get your car keys and make it early to the meeting, say you take a breath and think of the whole situation for a moment, just a second, to pull yourself together. You say quite simply, “this can only get better” and then proceed to get the keys, even if you eventually fall and hurt your ankle, and your car wouldn’t start, and you make it late, and you lose the job all the same, I can bet that you would be in a better state of mind to face what’s ahead than the one who let fear take the center stage.

Whatever happens to us, at whatever stage in our lives, we have the power to control what we think and what we expect. We are indeed powerful beyond measure, if only we will take the time to gather our power together and begin to harness our thoughts, and like search dogs, order them to bring to us exactly what we want to see in our lives.

Most times however we are lazy and let anything and everything travel through our minds like an unguarded path, haunted every now and then by robbers, and thieves and buglers. Negative thinking is mostly the byproduct of lazy thinking. It doesn’t take anything to think negative, it is the easiest thing to do.

However thinking positive and expecting positive results in our lives, takes discipline to harness its power, with persistence and consistent commitment. If you forget everything you’ve read, remember this, whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.

Courage

The power of gratitude

A   Poem on Gratitude
Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.
Author Unknown

 

Gratitude

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