overcoming mistakes


Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. – Groucho Marx

I find that so much, if not everything, is hinged upon the choices we make, the choices we have made and the choices we are going to make. Our lives will go in the direction of our thoughts, yes, just as our thoughts determine our decisions. So conversely, our lives will go in the direction of our choices.

So if you are wondering where your life has gone, check the choices you have been making. If you are looking at your life and are wondering, how did I get here, well, you did by way of your choices. Some people may want to chip in and say, but hey, ‘shit happens’, sometimes things never go the way you expect. True. Then what do you do with the space that exist between what happened and what you do next? That space is called ‘choice’.

When misfortune happens to us, our greatest power to change our fate, lies in the choice we make at the point of impact. Do we scream out loud and wail and pull at our hair and curse everyone we can blame for our misfortune or do we cry, nurse our wounds and with every step, try the best way we can to clean up our mess?

If by a silly mistake, which turns out to be a big bluff on our part, we lose something dare, a great opportunity, or a big break; do we beat ourselves up relentlessly until we bleed out with shame and self-hate? Or do we sit still for a single moment, take a deep breathe and ask ourselves the inevitable question — “How did I mess up so?”

Having big dreams and a dogged spirit is not enough to effectively live the life of our dreams. We must realize that a lot is dependent on our ability to choose. When we feel lost and then it turns out we have taken a wrong turn, do we murmur in defeat and stomp on in the wrong direction or do we bite our lip, turn around and begin the painful process of retracing our steps?

However painful your growth process, can you at least accept that this journey you are on, is the path to your dreams and that on this journey, you alone are the driver while your choices form the vehicle. You should also realize that before you can reach your plateau, make a conscious effort to remember that at every smooth turn and rough climb, at the point of defeat and at the place of conquest, you have the power to choose your life at every moment.

You choose your life at every turn and at every bump by deliberately choosing over and again your dreams, your values and your reason and purpose for being, no matter what happens; in both the good times and the bad times, you never forget the bigger picture — the picture of your summit, the place where the sky meets the earth.

You arrive at the place of effortless bounds, where you do not flap your wings in the struggle to rise above inhibitions, rather you spread them out and soar above the storms. We can either choose to live in the moment, conquer our fears and rise above all prejudice or we can choose to simply exist and allow anything and everything determine how we feel.

The choice is up to you. You can choose your life at every moment and be the best girl you can be no matter what happens or you can choose to react your way through life. What will you do with that space called choice?

Choose Your Life