Light up your life!


I love this quote. I just had to share it.

I believe so much in passion plus all my life, I’ve heard people say to me, over ‘n’ over “Bukkie you are so passionate”.  And they are right. Because I know I have this drive, yeah, and I’m always going all out to make things happen for people.

Then again lately, I’m learning something really new about passion… about how passion isn’t always about drive and force and vehemence but that passion is also about persistence and consistence.

If you want to read more about my newly discovered ‘passion-theory’ visit my friend’s blog and then CLICK on Little Drops of Water by Bukkie Allison.

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Change is inevitable but personal growth is a choice – Bob Proctor

I will like to share something about time and growth that I’ve come to appreciate very much. Let’s say you are a frequent visitor of this blog and overtime you read something new, you consciously take something away. Let’s assume that before now, you rarely gave much to thought to the choices you are making and or how you spend your time.

Let’s also assume that even though you have heard severally about goal setting you have never really seen any through and quite sincerely, have never truly had goals before.

Then you begin a journey toward a worthy ideal; you say to yourself, oh, I’m going to put these things I’m learning to the test. I am going to set a goal for myself, along side that, I will also begin to take my choices and decision making a lot more seriously. I will also begin to stay conscious of time and cherish my time more.

Next you get a journal and begin to write down your goals, you big idea, and basically begin to take account of your little victories. You begin to practice saying No to anyone or anything that doesn’t align with your you or your goal.

You also begin to take more risk like you’ve never attempted before, you attend those nerve-racking events where you are required to walk the room, make new acquaintances or talk about your business in the speed networking segment.

You take the leap and even though you are a nervous wreck inside, you put on your best smile and adorn your best colors, inside and outside. You slowly begin to grow a new circle of acquaintances, friends and business pals. You develop a new interest in books and self-development materials by gurus like John C. Maxwell & Brian Tracy.

Slowly but steadily you realize that many of your dreams which you once relegated as mere fantasies or have completely forgotten about begin to resurface in your mind. You are stirred up by a new enthusiasm. Your life has a new zip to it and you suddenly know what it is you want out of life and how you want to go about this new goal of yours.

The picture gets clearer and less blurrier by the day. You fill up one journal, then another. You find that your once very shy and introverted self has now become the life of every social gathering you find yourself. You find yourself taking the grand stage and carrying others along.

You are embracing your new intentions, to be focused and goal, to be clear in your choices, to take charge of your life, to appreciate and utilize your opportunities, to associate with people who grow you, to invest your time wisely and staying happy in spite of the odds.

Then one day, from the blue, you meet an old acquaintance and you guys have lunch, then she says to you, whoa, you are so different, I almost didn’t recognize you when I saw you, and now I can hardly believe you are the same person I’ve been talking  with all afternoon. You are different. There is something new and fresh about you.

The following week, your old acquaintance refers you to a top organization who in turn call you up for an interview for one of their top management positions. You go and you’re taken. You begin and your finance is transformed almost immediately. You take a look at your journal and you realize that you have not only exceeded a your 12 month goal in six months, you have also begun ticking off the 2 year goals.

You sit back and you wonder when and how you got there. You try to understand what it was you did differently, you reflect on the events of synchronicities and think to yourself that each of the steps you have taken weren’t exactly rocket science. Which is true; it only took a little shift of your mind and attention to make the huge difference.

It also didn’t happen overnight. You remember quite vividly it was about two birthdays ago that you made a true resolution to change your life and begin to apply the tips you read on my blog. You smile and decidedly concluded that they work after all. That one can begin to make a difference in their lives if they decided to.

You can tell just by looking at your life. You cannot explain how it happened, but you can tell for yourself that your life is different. That is the thing about time  I thought you should know.

Though this is only a theoretical example, you can decide that this could be your story. You can begin to take your life more seriously and apply the things you read here to your life. Start here, start now. Persistence + Consistency + Time = successful results.


  “The body grows slowly and steadily but the soul grows by leaps and bounds. It may come to its full stature in an hour.” ― L.M. Montgomery

Success is time

Rachel McAdams in movie – Morning Glory… One of my favs about believing in dreams!!



“There are women who make things better… simply by showing up. There are women who make things happen. There are women who make their way. There are women who make a difference. And women who make us smile. There are women of wit and wisdom who — through strength and courage — make it through. There are women who change the world everyday… Women like you.” ― Ashley Rice


There are days when I’m not my best self. Say I’m out with friends or family, I’m supposed to be having fun but I’m mostly preoccupied with a nudging feeling whispering in my head, “Today would have been better assuming that conversation hadn’t ended sour.” “Oh this moment would have been more exciting assuming that deal had gone through.” “Oh, my weekend could have been better assuming that transaction hadn’t truncated.”

And it goes on and on and on. I give one excuse after another why I can’t be my best self. Why the today is going to end gloomy even when it begun well. I tell myself every lie possible to keep my mind locked in that sad, depressed state. Then no matter what happens, the day can only get as much energy as I pump into it, whether it is in what ifs, or regrets, it would be ultimately cheerless.


“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude, toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”

― Brian Tracy


Then there are other days when I’ve had the lamest of conversations and experienced the lamest of encounters and still face the remaining part of the day with all the gusto I can muster and be my best self. I quickly remind myself that the best parts of my journey are those down turns and groggy bends; they are those times when I muster my deepest strengths and bring on my mojo to influence whatever decisions I would be making when I get myself back. I am reminded to bring my charm every time and everyday. I learn to laugh at myself with every bluff I make and I’m quick to teach this lesson to those around me. That they too can learn to embrace themselves when they fail and pick themselves up when they fall. The moment I can bring myself into that space, and tell myself it was time I tried another trick in the book, I am quickly revived as I begin to create new paths toward achieving my desired outcomes. I am reminded that indeed the best parts of my journey are not the destination but the journey itself.


“The journey is what brings us happiness not the destination.”

― Dan Millman


Learning to show up each day isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do, our minds are mostly set in dysfunctional patterns, however once you can make it a habit to show up strong and be your best self each day, you would have found the easiest path to being happy. You may be wondering, how does a girl begin to decide to show up everyday of her life? (Her sometimes horrendously busy and dramatic life!!) I’ll share a few clues:


“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances, Be more active, Show up more often.”

― Brian Tracy


Always begin your day on a positive note. I learned recently that there is no such thing as waking up on the wrong side of the bed. Right side, left side or middle, fall off a double-decker if you like, you still get to make a choice about how you want your day to go. You set the motion for the day, you bring the energy to every activity, you bring the light to each moment. It is up to you to decide, it is up to you to show up; so what’s it gonna be?


“Never complain, never explain. Resist the temptation to defend yourself or make excuses.”

― Brian Tracy


Always take responsibly for your actions. As humans, our society has preprogramed us to react to almost everything that happens in our lives, in the lives of others, the world at large, etc. We are either blaming, defending, judging or giving excuses. It’s definitely not going to be easy-peazy but knowing that every event can either be a lesson or a reward is perhaps one of the greatest lessons you’d learn.


“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going.”

― Brian Tracy


Try not to focus on how many times you have fallen short on how many times you blundered. If you woke up grumpy and complaining about everything else, stop yourself the moment you realize it and begin afresh on a new page. Give your day a title if you must, like a movie you are watching and are having a good laugh or like a booking you are reading and are enjoying immemsely in the most quiet corner of your mind. Whatever you do, always remember to start over whenever you fail ’cause you would and often. Failure can be a good thing too.


“We learn from failure, not from success!”

― Bram Stoker


Always have a day plan. A day without a plan is a day destined for catastrophe. By not having a plan, you open the door for anything and everything to crowd your day. You become irritable and frustrated and you often sometimes disgust yourself. You are angry at everyone and at everything and nothing makes sense. That’s not a good place to be. So try to have a day plan. A day at a time is always a good place to start and one item on your to-do-list is not a bad idea. Achieving that single piece of command on your list can be a major victory and one giant step toward improving your self-esteem.


“You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm.”

― Colette


Be true to yourself. Be kind too. Be open minded; to corrections and to new tricks. Stay positive and have faith that it will all work out in the end. One good day after another, and in that sequence, amounts to one good future, one good life well lived. So whatever you choose to do each day as you decide to show up in life, remember that you will do some foolish things, but that shouldn’t bother you, so long as you do them with enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is important because it leads to being happy, purposeful and focused. Enthusiasm is also a significant key to success.


Finally what ever happens ——->>>>>>>>>>>>


>>>>>>>>> “Never, never, never give in!”

― Winston Churchill