Forgiveness

A day at a time

Life is here and now
This moment
A simple thought
A fleeting whiff
The cursory glance at life’s miniature features
Cumulating details of decisions we make by failing to make any at all
A mass of mental absenteeism snowballing downhill
A stockpile of unattended facets, wilting away, abandoned, forgotten
Punctured opportunities and the gradual sipping away of essence, chance, time
Then life passes by, leaving no traces, no footprint, no memories
We become as stone, cracklings, caked by the scorching sun
Hopeless and despondent that once again we have failed to live in the present moment
Life is here and now
This very moment
A beautiful morning, a kiss, a bear hug, a tear

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What truly matters in the end?

Everything…
Everything matters
Each word spoken and everything done matters
Everything left unsaid and everything left undone
Every transient thought
Every single day
All possible encounters fostered
Every single smile
The compliments paid
Every embrace felt
Every gratitude shared
Every gift given, even the tiniest handshake
Every promise made,
Every flimsy excuse
Every dream dreamed
Even the days that dragged on
And the nights that never seemed to end
The things you meant to do but never came around doing
And the one you did but never meant to
The things we should have done
The things we should have said
And the things we plan to do
The kindness we should have shown
The visit we should have made
Unwarranted procrastinations, and unredeemable opportunities, lost forever
The friend we could have been but failed to become
Family we could have had but were too proud to accept
Places we could have gone but too afraid to dream
The life we could have had but too short-sighted to believe
All of it matters in the end
Because everything is everything
The way we do one thing, is the way we do everything

Little drops

It is the little things we don’t do
That cause the heartaches we don’t want
It is the little time wasted
That cause the disappointments we can’t accept
It is the little things we hold back
That cause the heartbreaks we don’t admit
It is the little things we ignore
That cause the gulf we can’t cross
It is the little things we don’t care about
That cause the loss we can’t bear
It is the little things we can’t overlook
That cause the irritations we can’t avoid
It is the little things we can’t confront
That cause the distance we didn’t intend
It is the little things we can’t let go
That cause the heaviness we can’t unburden
It is the little things we don’t tell ourselves
That cause the  regrets we can’t live with

True Freedom

When we rid ourselves of all excuses
When there is no cause for apologies
When the needs of others take precedence
When there is absolutely no basis for complain
When we accept responsibility with grace
When we embrace our differences with compassion
When we become truly selfless and devoted to caring
Then would we have discovered the path to true freedom

What is forgiveness?

Is it when it no longer hurts or
Is it after we are even?
Is it when we let go or
Is it after we blowout?
Is it when the debt is paid or
Is it after we pay back?
Is it when we forget or
Is after we almost never remember?
Is it when we apologize or
Is it after we beg forgiveness?
Is it when our apology is accepted or
Is it after we are forgiven?

A ghost from the past

That familiar delighted cackle
That broad cheerful grin
That piercing warm gaze
That tender loving touch
That sweet fleeting promise
That callous mean rebuke
That stifled sizzling silence
That rattling unnerving scowl
That creepy dark presence
That giant intimidating ego
That inevitably sour story

My bad

I shouldn’t have said what I said
I didn’t mean to hurt you
I shouldn’t have done what I did
I wish it could all go away
I didn’t want to but I did anyway
I was going to surprise you
I was going to call afterwards
I never meant for it to end this way
I should have told you the truth
I should have known
I should have seen this coming
I could have stopped this from happening
I am better than this
I expected more from you
I was carried away
I was too soft, too kind, too gentle
I was blind
I was naive
I was the gullible one
I was too careful
I was too late
I spoke too soon
I was wrong

LET BYGONES BE BYGONES

The past cannot be changed, forgotten, or erased.  It can only be accepted. – Mark & Angel


Your past is one thing for sure; it is your past. It cannot be erased and it cannot be undone. It can only be accepted. No matter how much you try to explain yourself to people, you can never gain peace or satisfaction only a momentarily gain of having made people hear or see your point of view.

The deed has been done the only thing left is here and now. And what are you going to do with it? Are you going to spend it mourning and bitting your finger nails? Or are you going to seize this moment and do the right thing next time life presents you with crossroads?

You are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. – Mark & Angel

Most of our mistakes happened because we were blinded with self and a deep longing to be in control but we didn’t know that the greatest power we will ever muster is the power to stir ourselves aright. Our ability to take control of our own lives by manning our own decisions is the bravest and most courageous and not trying to control the will of others.

So let bygones be bygones. The best thing you can do to appease the past is to apologize, forgive, and move on. Anything else apart from these would be beating around the bush.

Don’t get stuck trying to fix the past that you miss out on your life in the present. Life is here and now. Live it with all the enthusiasm and positivity you can muster. Selah.


You might not be proud of all the things you’ve done in the past, but that’s okay.  The past is not today. – Mark & Angel

Goodbye

ANGER MANAGEMENT 101

The man who cannot control his anger is like a city without walls – Proverbs 25:28


When people are rude to your or talk carelessly with very little restraint it usually because they too have only received judgements and accusations from the world.

The thing however is not so much that the world handed them misjudgments and ill treatments, but that in the process of being underrated, they chose to absorb the hurt rather than reject it.

Therefore, it would be  wise to not overreact when certain people blowout on you. While you tell yourself that there is absolutely no cause to react, also remember not to stay too long in the poisoned atmosphere or it’s only a matter of time before you too are infected by the same misjudgment.

The next time the cashier at the supermarket or the front desk secretary acts up again, other than muttering ‘bitch’, remember this lesson and be grateful that you can understand her better.

Choose to be uninfluenced. Be the gracious one. Kindness is the magic touch. Some people may want to resist this as well, don’t cuss and say, ‘Ha! I was even being nice!’ Just smile and go your way. They probably do not know how to react to kindness either. Thank God you can and that you even know how to express it.


Most people can only give others what they have received themselves – Mark & Angel

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3 WAYS TO FREE YOURSELF FROM HURT

Life is too short to hold on to misgivings and fights. Often we find that our hearts are tightened with bitter anguish over hurt that has crushed our hearts with a heavy burden. We are stuck, unable to move o with our lives until we take the first step towards liberty.


1. Be the bravest, be first to apologize: I’ve learned severally through many life experiences that finding the courage to apologize frost is truly liberating. It immediately lifts the dark veil of pride that is separating you from your true peace.

2. Be the strongest, be first to forgive: Genuine apology will always lead to genuine forgiveness even when you are not in the wrong. It immediately frees you form the hurt that once blinded your judgement and you are able to let go finally. You also succeed in telling yourself that the person didn’t know better and that humans a re generally vulnerable.

3. Be the happiest, be first to move on: Move ahead. Don’t store up unpleasant moments in your mind and you must fight the urge to relive any of such. Keep your eyes straight ahead and occupy your thoughts with the newness that is unfolding with your new decision to be free. Don’t hold back from living your life to the fullest because the other party who has refused to let go and is still holding on to claims of injustice. Do not let their negative energy poison your state of tranquility. Be the happiest!


 

The first to apologize is the bravest.  The first to forgive is the strongest.  The first to move forward is the happiest.  Be brave.  Be strong.  Be happy.  Be free. – Mark & Angel

Brave

Brave – 3D Animation. A moving story about bravery and reconciliation…